Being a Libra North Node* (with Taurus at the Midheaven*), I am always fascinated (and at times challenged) by all things Venusian. As the planetary ruler of Libra and Taurus, Venus is the guiding light toward anything that brings us pleasure and romance. Through Libra, she's charming, witty, well-dressed, and creative. Through Taurus, she all of these things too but whereas Libra's focus is on the visual and intellectual expression of Venus, Taurus is more concerned about the sensual and material. And as an Earth sign, it's all about substance and quality for The Bull.
As an astrologer and transformation coach, I can't begin to tell you how many people (especially women) that I come across who spend very little time and money on pleasure. Though I can't say that I blame them, as we live in a culture (namely, American culture) that places way too much emphasis on productivity and not nearly enough on relaxation and renewal. Yet study after study has concluded that being overworked and overextended can lead to some very damaging consequences for our health.
Outside of health complications, there's another danger to being too busy. We lose the power of allure. Think about it. When you're in the throes of something pleasurable, a delicious meal, a juicy kiss, a hearty laugh, a good movie--you light up. You become so consumed with the brilliance of that moment that you become pleasant and enjoyable. You become attractive; a happy magnet. Knowing all of this, why are we still so pleasure deprived?
We're often bereft of pleasure because we've been conditioned to view it as frivolous. I mean, why put so much effort in wasting time when there's so much to do? However, as the Queen of Pleasure, Venus in Taurus asks a little something different of us. She asks that we shift our perception of fun by taking it seriously. This is not about wasting time or resources as much as it is about being smarter about how we spend it. Through Venus in Taurus we discover that when we take the time out to invest in our pleasure what we are doing is investing in ourselves. So, as planet Venus makes her way across this earthy terrain (from UPDATE for 2017: June 6-July 4), here are a few ways to make the most of this time:
Be wise with your money. This is not about being cheap or exorbitant but about a balance. Treat yourself to quality. Save for security.
Get bodywork. Reiki, acupuncture, and massage are just a few ways to rejuvenate and restore your body.
Eat something healthy and delicious. Bonus if you cook it yourself.
Get into your body. Intro to Pole? Qoya? Belly dancing? Adopting sensual movement as exercise can be fun and invigorating.
Take your time. Slow down your eating, breathing, walking to be more present to the moment.
Wear something pretty. A wonderful way to amp up your self-confidence, joy, and personal allure.
Have good sex. Notice the emphasis on "good." The health benefits are proven.
Create something you love. Then show it off!
Only do something if your heart's really in it. Don't settle for anything less.
Suggested reading: Sacred Seduction by Kitty Cavalier
